Putting on Your Real Dating Face
The title of this article is not a reference to your choice of makeup for the weekend appearances at the hotspots in town. What we are dealing with here is the need we all have to be seen as who we are rather than just being cool. We all know the look – all dressed up, radar on, runway smile. That is good – up to a point. However, your real focus is being able to do all that and have the ability to shift into “realness” gear when the action heats up. A thorough understanding of these principles might, indeed, help to get your ex back. If you are trying to recover a broken relationship, your chance to win your ex back, will be heightened by knowing all these things.
Regardless of all the Cosmo articles to the contrary, we all want to know what – and certainly who – is behind that pretty smile. That is the perspective of this piece – getting past hello with your real face on. While we all want to be seen as being cool and sophisticated, being real is a genuine talent.
The best way to force yourself into a relaxed and controlled “face” when you make contact with someone is to start with a quiet voice. This may be tough if the place has a loud band, but it is doable. Every woman comes across more alluringly when she whispers. Believe it or not, there is a formalized theory in this regard, suggesting that you are well advised to be inaudible. This allows the guy to lean into you so you can repeat yourself. There are several things a woman can do with a man who is leaning toward her. Once you get past introductions your next challenge in these turnouts is to present yourself as someone worth knowing more about. We usually follow “what’s your name?” with “what kind of work do you do?”. While that series of questions is typical it rarely sets one apart. Your real focus here should be one of being memorable, a process that rarely works if you are trying to say something cliché or cute. Whatever you can do to separate yourself from the other lionesses in the pride definitely will work in your favor.
If you are attempting to get ex back from a breakup caused by the absence of these things, take heed.
